The Style Network has a great reality show on a weight loss boarding school in NC. The other day, they showed the summer for these kids. The kids left the boardings school after losing hundreds of pounds to head home for the summer. They all failed in different ways and it was ALL because of their family support systems!
This show and many other weight loss shows are GREAT for me to watch because it’s a way for me to see inside the homes and lives of Americans and get a better idea of what’s going on. I am so engrossed in my nutrition research that I often forget that some of the things that I know as obvious is completely foreign to the regular American. I also assumed while watching this show that if a parent was willing to pay thousands of dollars a year to send their kid to this academy they’d be willing to make these changes themselves…NO!!
What a shocking show! I was absolutely amazed at these parents who were totally unwilling to make the changes these kids were making in order to live longer, healthier, happier lives. If not for themselves, could they not do it for their kids? They couldn’t! It goes to show that for many people food is an addiction! It’s as hard for them to change their eating habits as it is for heroine addicts to quit their drug. Often, it’s been said that the chemical response in the brain is the same if not worse for foods like sugar.
My point w/ this post is both that I was totally shocked and that the majority of these kids fail when they go home because of their LACK OF FAMILY SUPPORT! This is the same stat for drug and alcohol treatment which is why there is a need for families to get their own treatment for their addict and for the addict to not return to the same environment. This is so much more complicated with FOOD than with drugs and factor in that these kids cannot leave their environment, their parents’ home!
It works best if the entire family has the same wake up call at the same time. This doesn’t happen all the time though! We are often in different places than the people in our families but you will also notice that many families suffer from the same problem of obesity, together. It is a very personal thing and quite a process to go from deciding you think you might need to make a change, to for sure being ready, to making the plan to actually DOING it. It’s a HARD thing to do to be the one who makes the change when the world around you – your friends, family and coworkers – are not changing with you but sometimes that’s the only way!
Ron and Mike were a father/son team (respectively) on The Biggest Loser. They were all obese, including Ron’s wife and Mike’s mother & Ron’s other son and Mike’s brother. Ron’s wife decided many years ago that she was DONE! She decided she was going to make a change. She wasn’t going to live like that anymore. She wanted to reclaim her life. She was going to do it whether the rest of her family came along or not! She did it! THE KICKER….The rest of her family later followed!!!
Though it is often hard to be the only one in your home, workplace or with your friends who is making the change to be healthy and fit, it is not impossible! It can be done! And often, they will follow! BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD.
Be the change you want for your family. Be the leader. Start the change. Tell your family that you are ready to change. You will change. You want to live a better life. You want to live the life you imagined. You want to stop admiring other women (or men) and you are ready to be that person. You are sick of hating yourself for doing the opposite of what you know you should be doing every day. You are sick of going to bed at night and feeling like a failure and you are ready to do and be the person you want to be!
Do it and see what happens! It won’t be easy! It will be hard! It will be a challenge. You will be sabatogued. There will be jealousy and complex emotions. But, what if you bring them with you on your journey? Give them time. They need time. They cannot make the change because you are ready. Make the change. Learn the tools to do it for yourself and they will learn along the way. Take control of your life and take what you want for yourself.
FITori Story: In college, my husband brought me along on his fitness and nutrition journey. He made changes and let me know that when I was ready, he’d help. I “got” ready and asked for help. I did BFL. Later through my fitness journey, a few years later, I asked for help again. I got a trainer and started my path toward my…now…healthy obsession with health and wellness. During my contest prep, I was alone in my journey! I decided I would start cutting for my competition with or without my husband doing it with me BUT there had to be HOUSE RULES. There could not be any “bad” stuff in the house that would tempt me. As I said in this post about my environment I am easily tempted by foods in my environment and to achieve my goals I needed his help in that regard. [I've gotten better about this recently and I don't always eat "bad" when he does but that is hard for me and was especially hard when I was starving my self to cut for that show! Not recommended...the starving part.] The point is…he later came along and joined in. He had his own journey and he started that journey when he was ready WITH ME AS INSPIRATION.
SHARE YOUR STORY! How have you made changes and what has happened? Were your friends and family supportive?