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Why are you doing this?

It’s an important question to ask yourself and know the answer for anything that we do in life.  I had a great conversation with a great friend of mine a while back during her (and my) contest preparation during which she said “I don’t even know why I’m doing this anymore.”  If we don’t have a good reason to do something, we usually won’t do it to the best of our ability or stick it out through the end.  That reason can change along the way but we have to have a reason, in my opinion.  What is your motivation?

My reason for competing started out that I wanted to get in the best shape of my life before getting pregnant and accomplish the goal of getting on stage to push myself before we had kids.  It later turned into continuing on with my goal to motivate others, including my immediate friends and family, and to finish what I had started, even though I felt conflicted because my goal became overall health rather than simply getting lean and I found a bit of a contradiction in that at times. I changed my goal from looking like Monica Brant or any other Figure competitor to looking like I look now and feeling GREAT all the time!!!  My goal of being lean changed from the look of 9% body fat to where I am now – 14-15% maybe??

Tres Bennett, The trainer that my husband is working with currently and that I worked with in the past from said that “although vanity is our motivation health is the ultimate goal.” I love that!  Are you using vanity to help to motivate you toward being healthy?  If that works for you great!  I, personally, use health to help motivate me and make me feel less deprived of “bad” foods.  

Why are you trying to lose weight?  Do you want to be healthy? Do you want to feel better on a daily basis so you don’t have to drink caffeine at 2:00 to get through the day? Do you want to be thinner and be free from constant obsession over being fat?  (Will being thin fix that problem for you, really?)  Do you want to be a good example for her kids and give them the tools to be healthy and lean?

Know your goal. Know the reason you are doing this. Remember that reason! Put it on your fridge.  Put it on your day planner. Make it your screensaver on your iPhone or your desktop on your computer.

I found that when I switched my mentality from being thin to being healthy, it was MUCH easier to turn down eating CRAP! I didn’t want to put that crap into my body because I would feel horrible and I knew what it was doing to my body. Empty calories plus trans fats and simple sugars = I feel bad. I look bad. I shorten my life. I lessen my quality of life. Why? For an immediate taste of sugar?  How stupid.  Instead, there are healthy and organic recipes that I can make that taste better and are better for my body…..HEALTH!

My goal is to be healthy and fit. I want to be healthy to live a long life and stay here on earth as long as I can to enjoy my life.  I want to feel good every day I live that life so I can do all the things I want to do while I’m here. I want to be free from being obsessed over my body fat and size and feel lean and good. I want to feel good when I get dressed in the morning and when I put on my pj’s at night and not feel disgusted or disgusting.  I want to have the mental clarity to enjoy and grow my relationships with my friends, family and most importantly with my husband and future children. I want to have the mental clarity to work hard and give my company all it deserves from me and to give all I have to my blog and my other passions in life.  I want to enjoy my pregnancies (God willing) and not be preoccupied with body image concerns or feel too weak to enjoy my life and that time of my life. I want to set a great example for my future children and give them the tools they need to never struggle with weight and or body image and to live long, healthy lives.  I want to inspire others to live the life they want for themselves as I have been inspired live my best life.

What is your goal? Why are you doing it? What are you trying to achieve or prove?  Who are you trying to prove that to?  Ask yourself these tough questions and get real with yourself in order to achieve your goals.

Lindsey - Thanks for this, exactly what I needed to read on the first of my two days off, when I usually splurge more than I should! Thanks, girlie!

Nikki - I love this post, and it just reminded me of my own goals and realizations throughout this whole process. 🙂 Love ya and so proud of you!!

Melinda - I just found your blog via the Faith, Fit and Fun blog and 30 DSLR. I’ve been looking through your entries, and love this one. I’ve been on a spiritual and physical journey the past 2+ years (when my daughter moved away to college and I realized I had forgotten who I was) and knowing why we are pursuing something is so important to success. Thanks for the reminder!


tori - I’m so glad to hear that!!! I agree & I think if we don’t know why we are less likely to succeed at it!

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